Why does a demure and skilful young woman have an affair?

She is 28 years old, and after graduating from college, she was assigned to work as a doctor in a hospital. Her condition is very good, and love for 6 years after marriage and children. Now she has a house and a car, she loves her family and her husband, and has never thought of betraying her husband. She has always insisted on her principle of not seeing friends, but finally in him was broken. Like countless vulgar cheating stories, they met online, and she was attracted by his mature humor and concern, she felt infinite warmth, and the sincere feelings in her heart were growing like spring grass. However, this encounter came too late, she is a man’s wife, reason still let her refuse his request to meet. Although she still craved affection and romance, she felt that she could not abandon her responsibility to be faithful to her marriage, so she decisively broke off contact. But more than a month later, he actually received a phone call, he said to come to work, would like to see her. She refused sensibly, however, and finally failed to hold out and agreed to meet. After they met at the agreed place, he had a handbag in his hand, he said it was inconvenient to carry the bag, first open a room to put the bag there and then come out to play, and then they went to the hotel together. Everything is very natural, in the room they talk, he defused her guard bit by bit, and slowly, he was held on the bed… After dinner, I went home with a lot of conflicting feelings, the guilt of my husband and the excitement of cheating, she felt that she was in love with this mature man.

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Some people say that a man’s infidelity is physical, a woman’s infidelity is spiritual, and a good woman generally will not have an affair. In fact, I think every woman has two sides, that is, one side is very dignified and very skilled, and the other side is very naughty and very indulgent. Usually, in the eyes of others very dignified and skilled women, in fact, the heart is very eager to “bad” a, and even envy those unrestrained and bold bad women. And those bad women who are seen by others as dissolute, will be very eager to be dignified and virtuous to be admired and respected. Therefore, sometimes the ostensibly serious good family and good woman also want to be bad, which seems to be a little rebellious. Therefore, today’s women, that is, traditional and conservative, do not think that they will never be able to “cheat”. Perhaps every woman who cheated out of the wall has her own reasons, but most good women have certain incentives for cheating:

First, pursue perfection. Countless women have perfectionism complex. Is to think too perfect love, think too perfect men. In fact, most of the feelings that the man brings to the woman are made up by the woman herself, or even imposed on the man. When a woman has feelings for a man, she will impose a lot of aura on him, and even shortcomings become strengths. And the reality, this man is in fact ordinary more ordinary, he may be selfish, incompetent or even atrophic, women are deceived by their own phenomenon. Although she and her husband are very good, but found that her husband is not perfect, only meet part of her emotional needs, the heart is also eager to live in their own spirit. This is why countless young women still love to watch Korean dramas and idol dramas, because they need emotional sustenance.

After marriage, women will find that there are many good hopes have become a bubble, the mother-in-law in life makes them feel bored, sometimes the husband is around, and even when they love, they feel numb, thinking about another man, and daydreaming about the pleasure and satisfaction of sex. Therefore, cherishing marriage does not mean that a woman does not cheat, it is very virtuous and dignified on the surface, but the heart wants to seek an emotional Eden from outside the marriage, and it may do something out of line. Women originally hoped to find friends online, both to meet their emotional needs, but not to suffer moral condemnation and guilt, did not think of physical infidelity, but over time, women will fall into the emotional trap of men outside marriage and adultery.

Second, seek compensation. This is probably the most common reason married women are more likely to cheat. For example, the marriage is not happy, the husband is not considerate, the husband can not often accompany, the husband does not understand the style, the husband is busy with work and ignores the family, etc., the woman’s heart is depressed, can not be relieved, so I hope to get emotional comfort outside the marriage, which is to seek psychological compensation. For example, most married women live in a small space, except for the family and children, and completely lose themselves. When you take care of your family and face yourself, you will often feel empty in your heart, confused and afraid of your vanishing youth. For example, successful women, after work, is facing the endless emptiness and loneliness of life. For example, the husband is not in good health, can not let the woman be physically satisfied, or the husband’s caresses are too rude and too weak, the woman can not get the way she wants, and there is a lack of communication between the husband and the wife. Now the network is developed, women are no longer the majority of the main, more and more opportunities to contact the outside world, coupled with the network of covetous men have some, many of them excellent people, a few exchanges, can achieve rapid derailment. This quick way to comfort the mind and body is the most common way for women

With a man outside of marriage to fill the life, women will slowly cherish their existing years, become charming, and gain new life and self in the emotional field. There’s a smart woman and a dumb woman playing tricks. Smart women just put this compensation as an adjustment, can quickly accept, quickly transfer, quickly eliminate, that is, to achieve the purpose and do not harm the family. Stupid women are often not heart is trapped in it is physically and mentally trapped, and finally lead to the breakdown of the original marriage, hurt themselves and hurt others.

Three, too much temptation. Some people say that women do not cheat, because the temptation is too little? Men do not cheat, because the capital is not enough? Today is a material society, a man wants to conquer a woman, can use money to lure, 100,000 too little, 500,000, 1 million yuan, or even 10 million, how many good women in the world are still so pure not out of the wall. Of course, the words can not be so absolute, there are also “silly women” who do not attach importance to money. Russell said, “Man is virtuous because he has been tempted too little.” Everyone has a bad side in them. Social norms are often built on morality, but morality is vulnerable to powerful desires. In the face of money, love is great, in the face of huge money, love is exchangeable. The current situation is that, in the emotional loyalty above, repeated virginity nine fierce women, but also against the temptation of a playboy.

Nowadays, many adulterous women are defeated by their own desires. In this world, there are millions of pairs of seaweed and Becks, young, poor, in love… If everything does not go wrong, if all temptation does not exist, they will grow old together, live their poor and happy life, but in this world, there are countless “Song” type men, they will use various means to “temptation”, money, power, love, and deadly. Maybe you can resist the temptation of “money”, but you can never resist the charm of a rich man in the name of love. Because women have never been able to refuse temptation species, women, even with a lifetime of time to pursue a temptation to bring excitement.