Christmas and New Year are important traditional festivals, and happiness and peace are the most important themes. However, this should be a jubilant, happy and peaceful holiday, but there are always some couples to play a bit of disharmonious notes, such as a quarrel and divorce. According to some reports, it is not uncommon for couples to quarrel and divorce during the Christmas and New Year period. According to a survey, 65.8 percent of couples argued during Christmas and New Year, and 46.4 percent reconciled with each other on the same day. 2-3 days and good days accounted for 28.2%; And 14.3 percent of couples are still “fighting” today. The civil affairs department and the relevant personnel responsible for divorce in the court concluded that most couples who go through divorce procedures after Christmas and New Year belong to the impulse type, and many couples can not calmly deal with contradictions, and it is easy to make the choice of divorce on impulse. So why do couples fight and divorce over Christmas and New Year?
One is because there is time. This kind of couples usually work busy, couples get together more, even if there is an emotional crisis, but also because of no time and backlog. Originally there was a crisis of husband and wife feelings, usually busy with their own work, no leisure down, to Christmas and New Year, a year’s work is over, but also have time to get along. But usually little communication, mutual dislike, such a life has long been bored, a little unhappy on the gas not to play a place, easy to quarrel, the emotional problems for an end. Generally speaking, such couples have either become strangers, or have been separated for a long time, so take advantage of the New Year in order to map a good omen in the New Year, choose to use the way of divorce to solve, also counted as a good start for the next year’s good life.
The second is that women expect too much. During the holidays, women always look forward to receiving an unexpected gift or a romantic meal or outing. While the husband sleeps a long lie-in, gets up staring at the computer in front of endless games. So the woman horizontal, vertical a chaotic comparison, and finally came to the conclusion that “you don’t care about me” and “don’t love me”. Therefore, women like to sulk, often men because they do not know and ignore, the result is only a quarrel. In fact, in life, men often do not have any new tricks, but they are good executors, men may not know at all, and did not find anything wrong, and women have what requirements and do not want to say it, even if it is with a command tone. Therefore, the husband and wife really need to communicate, as long as the woman with the need to put forward, the man will seriously implement, then the festival is not happy.
Third, they are unwilling to compromise. Christmas and New Year has a headache, is who should go back to the parents of the Spring Festival. There is always no perfect solution in this regard, so some impatient young couples are not willing to compromise each other, once the difference is produced, divorce will be hung in anger to say out, because so divorced couples are still more, I have such a young couple, really in the impulse really took the divorce certificate. Of course, more or to seek common ground while reserving differences, try to accommodate one side, quell the war, Christmas and New Year quarrel and divorce will become a small episode. There is also a situation is to give both parents the New Year money and gifts of the problem, every family is inevitable, but the Christmas New Year this grand and special holiday, it is particularly prominent, men’s machismo this time will be fully exposed, women are not willing to give in, the quarrel is inevitable.
Fourth, the woman plays a temper. In general, the elderly are very traditional, in the festival will be more requirements for the daughter-in-law, this type of husband and wife live together with the in-laws, and the daughter-in-law is still working overtime at the end of the year, naturally can not meet the elderly some of the requirements such as cleaning and purchasing, resulting in conflict with the in-laws. At this time the woman will put the usual backlog of some complaints to the man attack out, the couple made a divorce. In fact, the woman should not be too angry, Christmas and New Year filial piety parents is natural, even with the in-laws have some contradictions also to calm down, if not really to the divorce, but also to explain more communication, eliminate the misunderstanding of your in-laws.
Five is reluctant to do housework. Holiday young couples want to relax, and usually busy work, no time to do housework, mountains of dirty clothes, dirty home, and need to arrange the holiday as “Labor Day”. If you meet a husband who has no work in his eyes, the wife will only be angry while working, which will easily lead to quarrels. In fact, housework problems are often the most concentrated place of trivialities, if a woman does a good job of communication and planning with her husband in advance, it may receive unexpected results.
Six is suspicious text message trouble. Many couples often have a crisis of trust over a seemingly suspicious text message. On the issue of the opposite sex, the festival is often a sensitive time, but it can not be “paranoid”, and eventually lead to serious consequences due to misunderstanding. Of course, there are some other parties really have extramarital affairs, although Christmas and New Year is a festive holiday, but the third party feels that the original commitment will be more and more far away, at this time to put pressure on each other, since you do not let me have a good Christmas and New Year, I also want to let you have a restless life, therefore, a good Christmas and New Year has become an excuse to induce a third party attack, It also deepens the rift between husband and wife and eventually leads to divorce.